coastal alt/indie rock

​​Field Notes​​

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"Your Vintage Dress" is an exception in my catalog because it started on piano.

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I’ve probably written fewer than ten songs that are truly piano-based, and this is definitely one of them. The whole thing began with that little piano cue: dun, dun, dun, da-dun, dun, dun, dun, da-dun, dun. That was the seed. That was the door opening. I can play the song acoustically, and I have, but the piano is what triggered it. The piano gave it its shape, its mood, and its first sense of emotional weight.

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Where the rest of it came from, I’m honestly not sure. But I know it was anchored somewhere in my youth.

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I was always the nice guy. I was always in the friend zone. I was always the eleventh choice. The girl wanted to be with the jock, or the tough guy, or the reckless guy, or whoever seemed more exciting at the time. I was never the first choice. Ever. Even when I was in a band.

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So I got used to being around great girls and hearing about their problems. I got used to being trusted, leaned on, confided in, and then passed over. The exact scenario in the song never happened, but the emotional truth of it definitely informed a lot of my life. It is very much a friend-zone song, in that John Hughes sort of way. Those movies resonated with me because I understood that ache: being close enough to matter, but not close enough to be chosen.

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Once I started playing that piano riff, the opening lines came pretty quickly:

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Laid out on the sofa, tears ran around your face
I tried to hold you, but you said you needed more space
There was nothing I could say
There was nothing I could do for you

 

That became the heart of the song.

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At some point, another image entered the room. I had been watching Wong Kar-wai movies — those Hong Kong films with Maggie Cheung, Zhang Ziyi, Christopher Doyle’s cinematography, that whole saturated, melancholy, impossibly beautiful world. I love those films more than I can say. I’m a very visual person, and that style of filmmaking goes straight into my bloodstream.

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So I had this image in my mind of a woman lying on a bed or a sofa in a vintage dress. Not glamorous in a polished way. More like beautiful and undone. A little wrecked. A little unreachable.

 

And then the line arrived:

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I’ve still got a photo
You were such a hot mess
God, I loved you lying there
In your vintage dress

 

Once that line appeared, the song revealed itself.

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It became a reflection. A look back at a moment with a woman or man you have feelings for, maybe even loved, but couldn’t really have. You were there for them in one of their worst moments. You took care of them. You did the right thing. You were good to them. You protected the boundary, even though part of you probably wished there didn’t have to be one.

 

And then the next morning, they apologize and keeps going down the same road.

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That’s where the song lives for me. It’s not exactly regret, but it is one of those “why” songs.

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Why did you do all the wrong things?
Why did I support you through all the wrong things?
Why didn’t I stop you?
Why didn’t I say something?
Why didn’t I do something?

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And of course, that phrase — do something — is complicated. Because the wrong version of “doing something” would have been morally wrong. So you did the right thing. But did you do the right thing as a friend? Did you do the right thing for her? Did you do the right thing for yourself?

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That’s the conundrum at the center of the song.

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There are situations in life that would take 800 pages to untangle in a novel. But in a song, you get three minutes and five chords. You get an image, a gesture, a line, a little piano figure, and you try to let all of that emotional complexity pass through it.

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That’s what I love about songwriting. That’s the challenge. You don’t explain the whole thing. You find the essence.

And for this song, the essence was that piano riff, that sofa, that photo, that impossible moral ache, and the memory of someone lying there in her vintage dress.

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